So you’ve noticed that the old head board isn’t rocking quite like it used to. The screams of pleasure that used to echo through the halls have turned monotone and your lady seems to have a headache more often than not. It sounds like your bedroom needs a little boost to get things going again!
Adding spice to your love life doesn’t mean your sex life is dead, or that you’re a failure. On the contrary, throwing a little variety or excitement into your sex life is healthy and should be done every so often! Just like every other facet of your relationship, your sex life needs to be nurtured and maintained. Sex is a huge part of any romantic relationship and if it’s ignored and left for dead, it can cause problems in other areas of your relationship. It’s a good idea to take action before that happens.
For a lot of couples who’ve been together for a long time, sex can become a routine. Routines can make things easier and more manageable in everyday life, but a routine with your sex life can be a bit boring. Like watching your favorite movie over and over again, at some point you’ve got the lines down by heart. You may think it won’t get old, but 400 viewings of Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas and it starts to lose the ‘aahh’ factor. Sometimes it’s time for a new pick!
We often hear people talking about “spicing things up”. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to build a wild sex dungeon in your basement. If you’re planning on adding a little more dimension to your love life, take it one step at a time. Trying something new is always fun, and sometimes a little scary, but if you’re doing it with the love of your life, it’s bound to be more fun than scary.
Bringing a toy into the bedroom is a small step that can add just the right dash of naughty. A few examples of toys that can add a little zip to your bedroom repertoire: a bullet vibrator, sex dice, anal beads, or even watching a porno together. If she’s been eyeing some hot new adult toy model, surprise her by bringing it home!
There are other fun and exciting options to choose from when it comes to adding a little spice as well. For example, you could pretend you are strangers and pick each other up at a bar, or try out some racy exhibitionism. Getting extra flirty in public, or a steamy role play scenario might kick it up a notch too. Sometimes something as simple as changing positions more frequently or using different language can make a huge change!
Whatever it is you decide to utilize in shaking things up, proceed with caution. A huge thing to remember is to be considerate of your partner. Just remember that if things are feeling stale for you, they’re probably feeling stale for her as well. This is about making your sex together better; not just for you. Try to pick up on subtle nuances about secret fantasies she might be harboring. Really listen to what she’s telling you!
If your lady is making jokes about being naughty and needing a spanking and that’s not something you normally do in the boudoir, then go ahead and give her a little spank! Just remember not to try anything too extreme straight out of the gate. Get an idea of what your partner is comfortable with first before exploring unknown territory.
Trying something new can be fun, true, but it can also be a bust. Those new positions that looked so easy online might actually put you into an awkward position or result in a pulled muscle or two. Just remember to laugh it off and make it as fun as possible with your partner. Take cues from your girl, and spicing things up will be so easy you won’t believe that you didn’t do it sooner!